Channel 30.

My friend quipped, “Your purpose is to break hearts!” to which I highly disagree; though, the men who once pursued me were not bad at all, it was simply not meant to be. When I reflect back more than a decade ago, I realized that for every crossroad I encountered, change was highly demanded from me. I have learned how to say “no” even if the opportunity seemed promising; and I have learned to say “yes” to the unknown and allowed myself to trust my faith and attachment to the person.

This is where, I believe, some are confused. Real connections do not need a (venereal) physical bond because you are linked through a kindred language. My closest friends and I would look at each other from across the room and we would know what we’ve been thinking about without saying a word. My partner may not call for hours but I would sense when he’s going through something. We look at a painting and notice the artist’s emotions when she made her art. We hear a song and we know how the lyricist felt when he wrote it. Supporters from any form of art, religion, and political alliance, are connected with one another by a force that provokes their passion within.

At every point in our lives we are, in fact, the reason why people changed; and they also served as a channel to who we are today. We switch careers, and at the same time, we make way for somebody to replace us who needs a job. A relationship did not last no matter how long it was, because the couple is independently meant for others that fits the next version of them. A friendship falls apart that we may value the true meaning of loyalty. Our elderly leave us forever that we may continue the legacy they have left behind and produce a new one.

We are all channels of wisdom, hope, love, faith; the reason for one another’s evolution, blessing, regardless if the affiliation went well, or ended up in a catastrophic series of drama. Irrespective of the reversing shift in any of our relationships, the lessons that needed to be learned have been served, and there’s no other excuse but to grow.

I prefer to believe and be called a “life changer”—as we all are--because the truth is, I'm certain that the bridges I have burned (and/or those who claim i broke their heart) have created their highways and lit their paths to what they truly yearn for and deserve; as it prevailed in mine.

Stay optimistic, everyone!

Xoxo.