Saving your heart from Prince Harming!
Most of us have had our heart broken once or twice by partners whom we thought were “The One”. When you began dating, your relationship felt like you have won in the lottery among millions who are trying to take a chance on love. In the first few months of being together, your boyfriend posed as the best man you’ve ever met. A couple of months later, he starts to show his side of “Mr. Hyde” and until you look closely, you realize he is not the best out there. You start to feel like you have been ripped off of your ever after.
Then as problems come, you discover that your boyfriend isn’t really that concerned for you at all. When he tells you to do whatever you want and he says he won’t mind, what he really means is that you mind your own business and not care about his, because he totally doesn’t care about yours. You have ceased to see the fine print, and you should have looked closely to what you’re getting yourself into. Now you don’t know how to get out, because you’re already in too deep and you don’t want to feel embarrassed with your family and friends that your knight in shining armor is actually a Peter Pan – who only comes when it’s time to have fun. This is why men wonder why nice girls turn into bitches, tsk.
My fellow ladies, please, please, please…try to hold, hold off as much as you can before giving everything that you have to a man. It is wonderful to fall in love, but it is also right to look after your heart and dignity. At present, there are guys out there who have a checklist of the girls they want to pawn, yet there are still a few good men among this generation. You just have to be very patient and vigilant to see beyond the gifts, the fancy car(s), expensive food, trips, and his six-figures paycheck. All men would want to impress you initially to gain your confidence, but a real man will be proud to have you by his side and will show you off all the time.
A real man who wants a commitment is open to compromise. He will be flexible and will show his attention to details in every aspect of your relationship. I repeat, every aspect of your relationship—no matter how foolish it may seem. It is important for him that he cares not only for your feelings, but your pride as a woman as well. He will be hurt when you are hurting, and will cry with you when you’re sobbing. A real man will wait for you, no matter how long it takes, how hard it may be, and will do everything in his capacity to give you his last name.
Love is an investment, so make sure the assets can outweigh the liabilities and the relationship value will always appreciate as time passes.
I originally wrote this article (alias Rapunzel) as a contributing writer for Gentlemenhood.com.
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